motherly advice

she tells me that I should let 'her' know how I feel
I'm not sure she got the thrust of the message I gave her

I'm not so sure the best course of action to follow when someone tells you they are dating someone new after you, is to bring up the fact that you unresolved feelings for them
especially when you are the one who put them in a situation to date others to begin with

more importantly when those unresolved include sentiments that reflect that they would likely be dating that person regardless and left you in the process as a victim of the out of sight out of mind rule.

fact is 'she' stated prior to the initial separation that she would not have time for me in her new lifestyle, but she has had time to cultivate her new relationship; so it could simply have been that she was not willing to commit the time for it; not to say that all relationships don't take effort, but it's a lot easier when someone is part of your daily routine, not made to fit into it.

my "phychiatrist" sez that the only reason she told me she's dating is because she has feeling for me still yet, but it's not really in her former personality to purposefully try to make someone jealous or feel small, so why start now

though it does make sense that if one were truly beyond feelings for someone it would be a more awkward thing to bring to their attention. if you wished to remain friends, or at least not ruffle any feathers you would simply omit these details and move on with your separate lives. of course, maininting a distinct degree of professional socializing , be it simply through phone or internet.

i'm personally not sure if the information was meant to push me away or to pine after her. i'd have to say it's done a little of both. i don't think either is a good thing at this point. =(