Desperate Measures

Is it crazy to want someone to understand so badly that you employ a 3rd party. Isn't that what counseling is? I think so. And I don't really agree that things should need to be handled that way, but such is the state of the world which includes me I guess.

So, I'm getting one of her best friends to review the ramblings of my mind and attempt to convice her that my interest is from the heart not the hips.

She seems to be convinced that because I'm thinking of my career goals prior to our proximity goals that it is a slight on the value I have on our relationship. I think that every elder couple out there would side with me with taking care of the work side upto the point where you can coast prior to throwing that away for 'ideal happiness.' We are not beatniks. Even her mother 'jokingly' says marry for money and then for love. Well , if you only believe in doing that once, the same holds true just you need to support each other through the two phases.

You have love, you work on the money, then you share and enjoy your relationship. The first part is work, compromise and maybe not ideal, while the second part should be something that you both plan out and can be considered from all angles to be ideal for both parties while the first phase may shift between ideal for one and the other.

I guess the reason people don't get married anymore and divorce is so rampant and counseling has become so necessary is because people no longer feel the need to compromise or more explicitly work through relationships. Everythings got to be ideal and easy or it's not worth it. Well I say it is, but apparently you need two people on board to make that thinking work.